Can Men and Women Be Friends? | Dispatches from the Culture Wars

As someone with a lot of female friends ? in fact, two of my three closest friends in the world are women ? I found this study of platonic relationships and how men and women perceive them to be quite interesting. But I don?t find this at all surprising:

The results suggest large gender differences in how men and women experience opposite-sex friendships. Men were much more attracted to their female friends than vice versa. Men were also more likely than women to think that their opposite-sex friends were attracted to them?a clearly misguided belief. In fact, men?s estimates of how attractive they were to their female friends had virtually nothing to do with how these women actually felt, and almost everything to do with how the men themselves felt?basically, males assumed that any romantic attraction they experienced was mutual, and were blind to the actual level of romantic interest felt by their female friends. Women, too, were blind to the mindset of their opposite-sex friends; because females generally were not attracted to their male friends, they assumed that this lack of attraction was mutual. As a result, men consistently?overestimated?the level of attraction felt by their female friends and women consistently?underestimated?the level of attraction felt by their male friends.

But here?s why I think this may be making too much of that unsurprising fact. I?d be willing to bet that if you did the same study with casual acquaintances or even total strangers, you?d get a similar result. I suspect that men are much more likely to think that women find them attractive sexually, and have a wider range of women that they find attractive sexually, than women ? even if they don?t know the woman very well, or at all.

Nor do I think that the article is correct when it says that the study ?suggests that there may be some truth to this possibility?that we may think we?re capable of being ?just friends? with members of the opposite sex, but the opportunity (or perceived opportunity) for ?romance? is often lurking just around the corner, waiting to pounce at the most inopportune moment.? Or rather, I don?t agree that this fact means that men and women can?t really be friends. I don?t think the existence of some sexual tension, on the part of one or both of them, dooms a friendship between a man and a woman.

I think that such sexual tension can be a real problem for such a friendship, but it doesn?t have to be. The situation may well depend on circumstances (whether one or both are in a relationship with someone else), on the particular personalities involved, on their sense of ethics, and many more things. Almost any outcome is possible, depending on all these variables.

As someone who has mostly female friends and has always gotten along better with women than with men, I?ve been on almost every conceivable side of these situations at one point or another. I?ve been in situations where I was really attracted to my friend but either they weren?t attracted to me, or they were in a relationship, or there was some other emotional difficulty. I?ve been in situations where my female friend was attracted to me but I wasn?t to them, or where I was in a relationship. I?ve also had one very unfortunate situation where one night of sex ruined a friendship.

All of these are possible, as well as many other outcomes. And yes, they often do result in unfortunate drama and even the destruction of a relationship. But those results aren?t inevitable. They don?t have to prevent a really deep, profound friendship from developing. Two of my three closest, most important friendships ? relationships that will undoubtedly last until the day one of us dies ? are with women. I love them dearly and can?t really imagine my life without them.

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Source: http://freethoughtblogs.com/dispatches/2012/11/03/can-men-and-women-be-friends/

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Michael Hussey ready to bat higher if Ponting and Watson miss out ...

Michael Hussey ready to bat higher if Ponting and Watson miss out ? Cricket News Update

Michael Hussey, Australia?s middle-order batsman, has made himself available to be promoted up the order if Shane Watson and Ricky Ponting are not able to play the first Test against South Africa, which starts next week at Brisbane.

The Kangaroos announced their 12-man squad for the first Test last month, naming the former captain as well as their premier all-rounder.

Ponting, one of the modern-day greats, did not take part in Tasmania?s Sheffield Shield match this week due to a hamstring strain; whereas, Watson is facing pain in his left-calf.

The Aussie selectors have their fingers crossed as they wait for the medical report of the two senior players, who are expected to play a major role, if the Baggy Greens are to become the world?s number one ranked Test team once again by winning the forthcoming series.

If the seasoned duo fails to recover in time, some of the youngsters like Rob Quiney, Andrew McDonald, Usman Khawaja and Alex Doolan will be in contention to find a place in the Test team.

Hussey hopes that things go according to the plan and Australia field their best 11 against the world?s top Test team; however, the great left-handed batsman is prepared to bat higher in the order in case Ponting and Watson are not available.

?I haven't really thought about it at all,? said the left-hander. ?I'm happy to do whatever is asked of me. Whatever Michael (Clarke) and the coaches or whatever the team needs, I'm more than happy. As long as I'm in there I don't mind. Let's hope, fingers crossed, Shane's going to be okay.?

Meanwhile, there has been a lot of criticism on Cricket Australia for the current season?s itinerary, with most of the Aussie players taking part in T20 cricket ahead of such an important series against the Proteas.

CA?s Chief Executive, James Sutherland, understands the legitimacy of the concerns but claims that the officials are trying to do their best.

?People are perfectly entitled to ask questions (about player management). But at the same time they should have confidence that people involved are doing everything they can. We have really coordinated the effort between state associations and Cricket Australia management and medical staff,? Sutherland expressed.

Source: http://blogs.bettor.com/Michael-Hussey-ready-to-bat-higher-if-Ponting-and-Watson-miss-out-Cricket-News-Update-a198800

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Ensure business need for literacy requirement ? Business ...

Do you require basic literacy for every job? If so, the EEOC may soon be knocking on your door.

The agency has just won the right to rifle through an employer?s files for job descriptions to justify a broad literacy requirement.

Recent case: Kevin was born in Jamaica and can neither read nor write English. He worked temporary assignments as a laborer for Rand??stad, a large national temp-services company. When he arrived at his third job, the client company asked him to fill out forms.

That?s when he called Randstad for help and was informed for the first time that literacy was a basic requirement for any assignment.

Kevin filed an EEOC complaint, alleging race discrimination. Later, he added disability discrimination after tests revealed learning disabilities that prevented him from reading or writing.

The EEOC took up the cause, subpoenaing Randstad and demanding job descriptions and employee rec??ords that might show whether reading and writing really was a minimum requirement for every position the company filled for client companies.

Randstad refused to comply and took the question to federal court. The trial judge refused to enforce the subpoenas, but the EEOC appealed.

Now the 4th Circuit Court of Appeals has reinstated the subpoenas, ordering the company to comply?despite an estimated cost of $19,000. (EEOC v. Rands??tad, No. 11-1759, 4th Cir., 2012)

Final note: Ensure there?s a good, business-related reason for any literacy requirement. That?s especially true of lower-level jobs such as cleaning, stocking and other unskilled positions. If literacy isn?t essential, don?t require it.

And remember that if an applicant can?t complete application forms, he or she may be disabled and entitled to reasonable accommodations such as assistance filling out the paperwork.

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Researchers find 3 unique cell-to-cell bonds

Friday, November 2, 2012

The human body has more than a trillion cells, most of them connected, cell to neighboring cells.

How, exactly, do those bonds work? What happens when a pulling force is applied to those bonds? How long before they break? Does a better understanding of all those bonds and their responses to force have implications for fighting disease?

Sanjeevi Sivasankar, an Iowa State assistant professor of physics and astronomy and an associate of the U.S. Department of Energy's Ames Laboratory, is leading a research team that's answering those questions as it studies the biomechanics and biophysics of the proteins that bond cells together.

The researchers discovered three types of bonds when they subjected common adhesion proteins (called cadherins) to a pulling force: ideal, catch and slip bonds. The three bonds react differently to that force: ideal bonds aren't affected, catch bonds last longer and slip bonds don't last as long.

The findings have just been published by the online Early Edition of the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.

Sivasankar said ideal bonds ? the ones that aren't affected by the pulling force ? had not been seen in any previous experiments. The researchers discovered them as they observed catch bonds transitioning to slip bonds.

"Ideal bonds are like a nanoscale shock absorber," Sivasankar said. "They dampen all the force."

And the others?

"Catch bonds are like a nanoscale seatbelt," he said. "They become stronger when pulled. Slip bonds are more conventional; they weaken and break when tugged."

In addition to Sivasankar, the researchers publishing the discovery are Sabyasachi Rakshit, an Iowa State post-doctoral research associate in physics and astronomy and an Ames Laboratory associate; Kristine Manibog and Omer Shafraz, Iowa State doctoral students in physics and astronomy and Ames Laboratory student associates; and Yunxiang Zhang, a post-doctoral research associate for the University of California, Berkeley's California Institute for Quantitative Biosciences.

The project was supported by a $308,000 grant from the American Heart Association, a $150,000 Basil O'Connor Award from the March of Dimes Foundation and Sivasankar's Iowa State startup funds.

The researchers made their discovery by taking single-molecule force measurements with an atomic force microscope. They coated the microscope tip and surface with cadherins, lowered the tip to the surface so bonds could form, pulled the tip back, held it and measured how long the bonds lasted under a range of constant pulling force.

The researchers propose that cell binding "is a dynamic process; cadherins tailor their adhesion in response to changes in the mechanical properties of their surrounding environment," according to the paper.

When you cut your finger, for example, cells filling the wound might use catch bonds that resist the pulls and forces placed on the wound. As the forces go away with healing, the cells may transition to ideal bonds and then to slip bonds.

Sivasankar said problems with cell adhesion can lead to diseases, including cancers and cardiovascular problems.

And so Sivasankar said the research team is pursuing other studies of cell-to-cell bonds: "This is the beginning of a lot to be discovered about the role of these types of interactions in healthy physiology as well as diseases like cancer."

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How Sandy destroyed years of medical research

Mice and other specimens were lost when a New York lab?flooded and lost power, potentially setting back crucial studies for years

As Hurricane Sandy flooded Lower Manhattan, the staff at New York University's Langone Medical Center rushed to evacuate 300 patients. At another NYU facility, the Smilow Research Building,?thousands of lab mice drowned?as the storm surge filled the?basement with water. Many tissue samples and other specimens also were lost. "It's so horrible, you don't even want to think about it," said Michelle Krogsgaard, a cancer biologist. "All the work we did, all the time and money, we're going to have to start all over." What kinds of research were lost in the storm? Here, a brief guide:

What went wrong?
The so-called Frankenstorm knocked out power to the hospital. When the storm's record-breaking tides flooded the basement, where many of the research specimens were kept, the backup generators failed, leaving the 13-story research center in the dark. The mice were inundated. Other cells, tissues, and animals used for medical research died slowly in idle refrigerators, freezers, and incubators. Precious enzymes, antibodies, and DNA strands generated by scientists and stored at temperatures as cold as -80 degrees were also almost surely destroyed.

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How significant was the loss?
The facility houses labs dedicated to research on heart disease, neurodegeneration, and cancer. Some scientists doing doctoral or post-doc research may have been several years into a five- or six-year program, and may have to essentially start over from square one. Some of the mice that were lost had been genetically engineered for use studying melanoma and other diseases, and it could take several years of careful breeding to rebuild the colony. Researchers have to identify a gene to be studied, inject the altered gene into mouse blastocysts, and make sure the offspring can pass the traits along to following generations. "Some mice are unique, they're just made for certain research," one non-NYU researcher said, and there's no way to replace them without starting from scratch. "This does not equate to a loss of life," one NYU source told the New York Daily News, "but it is extremely disheartening to see years of research go down the drain."

Can anything be salvaged?
Researchers and lab workers are frantically trying to save what they can, moving still viable specimens, some in big rolling freezers, to a part of the hospital that now has emergency power. Some of the researchers may have shared their strains of mice with colleagues at other hospitals, who might be able to provide them with replacements. Others, however, will inevitably be forced to start over.

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Could this have been avoided?
Possibly. NYU officials knew the generators were old, and had plans to replace them. Also, researchers in Houston learned the hard way, during Tropical Storm Allison in 2001, that it was dangerous to house vital research materials in a basement that could be flooded in a catastrophic storm. The lesson hit home again in 2005 when Hurricane Katrina's floods killed 8,000 animals at Louisiana State University and thousands more at Tulane University ? many of the animals lost were, again, caged in basements. Construction started at NYU's 10,000-square-foot, underground animal facility after Allison, and it opened the year after the similar facilities were flooded in New Orleans. "I talk about disasters all over the world," says Bradford S. Goodwin Jr., director of animal research facilities at the University of Texas Health Science Center in Houston. "I just came back from the Asian conference in Bangkok talking about this, and I just tell 'em, 'Get your animals out of your basement!'"

Sources: ABC News, Live Science, New York Daily News, Salon, Slate

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Apple's Lightning to micro-USB adapter now available in US, not just Europe anymore

Apple's Lightning to microUSB adapter now available in US, not just Europe anymore

Just in case you thought the Lightning to micro-USB connector was Europe-only (to stave off that pesky European Commission), Apple has decided to sell it stateside as well. The tiny choking hazard recently made its way to the company's online store in the US for $19 each (over in Europe, it's £15 / €19), and brick-and-mortar locations will probably get them too -- if they're not in stock already. We're not sure if there's a huge demand for this, but if you're a recent iPod, iPhone, or iPad (Mini or 4th gen) owner with a plethora of existing micro-USB cables, an adapter like this could help lighten your nest of wires.

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Sandy plays role in falling gas prices in Texas

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Introduction Week -- Day Four FamilySearch Family Tree

A notice did appear on the New.FamilySearch.org website (this may be what they mean by an introduction) directing users to "Try FamilySearch Family Tree!" This is one of the major waypoints in the introduction process, letting current users of New.FamilySearch.org about the existence of the program. It would be interesting to see if this link, after signing in, takes the person directly to Family Tree without going through the hitherto necessary "invitation" step. If so, this is a big step towards getting the transition to FamilySearch Family Tree in progress.

If you have not previously used Family Tree and have either an LDS or FamilySearch Account, go to New.FamilySearch.org and click on the link, sign in and see what happens. Since I am already registered, I went directly to Family Tree. I am concerned that those who go to Family Tree by this direct route from New.FamilySearch.org will fail to understand where the Family Tree program resides, that is, that it is not New.FamilySearch.org but merely FamilySearch.org.

Because of the "update" of the Reference Manual in the Help Menu (when you are signed on only) I am not sure which features are or are not available at this time. I tried to search for possible duplicates where the same person was obviously shown twice as a child and got no results from the duplicate search. It appears that, at least in some cases, this feature has been removed for the time being.

OK, if you have gotten to this point in the post, you likely know what I am talking about. If not, I suggest going back through several of my previous blog posts on Family Tree. You may also wish to view the items in the Help Menu on FamilySearch.org concerning the program.

Source: http://genealogysstar.blogspot.com/2012/11/introduction-week-day-four-familysearch.html

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